Thursday, November 28, 2019

Show Your Gratitude With These Last-Minute Thanksgiving Gifts



Thanksgiving is such a marvelous time of year for so many reasons. It’s that sweet spot between fall and winter where the leaves are still falling off the trees, but you can start to imagine snow falling on the ground. It’s the coziest of holidays, dedicated to spending time with family, giving thanks, and of course having more than one helping of mashed potatoes. But Turkey Day can also be at times a little stressful. There are so many things to manage: the perfectly plated dinner, the perfect outfit, and a gift or two for that one family member you don’t see very often.

If you’re looking for a little last-minute gift for yourself or a loved one, we’ve got you covered. Want to look great in the kitchen while basting the bird? Consider wearing a cute little Dôen prairie frock with a festively printed apron from La Double J and a pair of surprisingly comfy platform mules from Coach. In need of some chic homegoods? Why not treat yourself to a floral Tory Burch dinner plate or grab a set of cheese knives for the gourmand in your life? No matter what you get, whether it is for yourself or a family member, take a moment to think about your year and the people who made it so lovely.

Wednesday, October 30, 2019

Why Is Everyone Saying “I Love That for You”?

It’s hard to pinpoint the exact moment when a phrase achieves meme status, but it seems to be happening more than ever. From “I’m baby” to “You hate to see it,” expressions that first gained currency in the shadowy depths of Twitter and Instagram often go mainstream, but it can be tricky to trace the precise etymology that takes, say, “Weird flex, but okay” from extremely online slang to all-purpose catchphrase.

The expression “I love that for you” and its variants (“I love that for me/us/them”) has picked up steam of late. If you’re a culture vulture, you might suspect that its origins could partly be traced back to The Bachelor’s Arie Luyendyk Jr., a living manifestation of compulsory heterosexuality who exclaimed “I love that” in 2018 enough to merit a three-minute compilation video. It’s now become a widely used phrase within queer communities, appearing even as the title of an LGBTQ+ lifestyle blog.



Gretchen McCulloch, internet linguist and author of the best-selling book Because Internet: Understanding the New Rules of Language, took to the Google Ngram Viewer—which tracks phraseology usage dating back to 1500—to search for possible linguistic predecessors to “I love that for you.” What she found wasn’t entirely surprising: “There are no results for the full phrase ‘Love that for you’ until 2008, so it seems like its origins are more recent,” she tells Vogue.

So how did “I love that for you” gain traction in the first place? The answer is complicated, and—like so many things in our current dystopia—at least partly YouTube-related.

“Like many queer cultural artifacts, ‘I love that for you’ comes from teens, and we’ve picked it up,” Rose Dommu, a senior staff writer at Out, who employed the phrase in a February interview, tells Vogue. Dommu attributes “I love that for you” to beauty guru James Charles, while cautioning that Charles is the equivalent of “a human retweet.”

Charles made headlines in May for his gummy-supplement feud with fellow YouTuber Tati Westbrook, but to his ardent, primarily teenage fan base, he’s been a star for years. At his zenith, Charles boasted 16 million YouTube subscribers who flocked to his DIY makeup tutorials like moths to a perfectly contoured flame, and he quickly parlayed that success into branded partnerships, Met gala invitations, and even a CoverGirl contract.

Before the feud, Charles won fans not only with his impeccable makeup skills, but also his taxonomy of catchphrases. In a March video titled “Learn the sister dictionary with James Charles,” Charles broke down the bon mots he’d become famous for on YouTube in alphabetical order: H was for “Hi, sisters” (used to open up every vlog); N was for “Not with that attitude”; and L, of course, was for “Love that.”

“‘Love that’ can be expanded to ‘Love that for you’ or ‘Love that for me,’” Charles explains in his always-upbeat tone. The shortened version of the phrase has made its way onto official James Charles merchandise, and like any good neologism, it even commands its own UrbanDictionary page. “Kind of like ‘love that,’ but generally means that you don’t actually care,” one user reports, making sure to hashtag #JamesCharles.

“I love that for [X]” has spread from Charles throughout the YouTuber community; it can be sincere praise of a friend’s outfit choice, or it can be used as a heightened form of “LOL” to express bemusement at the uncanny, like Tana Mongeau tweeting “I love that for us” when she and one of her followers tweeted the same joke about Donald Trump and Kim Kardashian’s May 2018 meeting. It’s a pet phrase of Mongeau’s; in fact, if you’re so inclined, you can even watch her saying it for two minutes on a loop.

Just as Charles has moved from star to scandal-maker, the phrase “love that for you” has curdled from earnest to sarcastic; this shift is evidenced by an October Reductress headline reading, “Knock Your Proud Friend Down a Peg or Two by Declaring, ‘I Love That for You!’” In its sarcastic form, “I love that for you” is a prime example of what writer Myriam Gurba calls “the queer art of being mean,” but it’s an inherently versatile phrase, one that’s as easy to employ sincerely as it is to toss off as an insult.

At its heart, “I love that for you” is a queer internet catchphrase with with real-world legs; like other online slang that has made its way IRL, it’s a signifier of someone who “gets it.” That is, for now, anyway; the chances are good that the phrase could go mainstream, emblazoned across water bottles and workout tanks the world over. Dommu notes how quickly the phrase has spread beyond Charles: “I hear people saying it now who would never watch his videos.” These days, when she catches herself saying “I love that for you” on the podcast she hosts, Out’s Outcast, she edits it out. “I can see some very non-gay brand marketing with it,” she predicts. “In five years, someone will be using ‘I love that for you’ to sell a sandwich.”

The thing that makes “I love that for you” great, though, is not its mainstream potential, but its versatility. How often can a phrase go from a genuine expression of loving support (as in, “The thing you’re doing will benefit you, friend”) to a subtle act of shade (“The thing you’re doing is tragically misguided, but I’m not going to say so”) with a simple change of intonation? “I love that for you” functions as a cultural bridge between millennial irony and Gen-Z sincerity—allowing everyone to take what they need and leave the rest.

Saturday, September 28, 2019

For Her Latest Role, Marisa Tomei Embraced Her Raw Side—Armpit Hair and All

In the opening scenes of Tennessee Williams’s 1951 play The Rose Tattoo, a tempestuous Italian immigrant named Serafina, is sitting in a state of decadent anticipation. Wine is chilling in an ice bucket; a bowl of roses is overflowing; the room is swathed in rose-patterned wallpaper; her hair “glitters like black coal.” She is waiting for her husband, the love of her life, and every detail of their Gulf Coast home reflects her ardor. But it is both the enduring force of love and its precariousness that Williams seeks to capture; that husband is killed within the first act, and Serafina soon slips into a reclusive, unkempt state. “Snatching the eternal out of the desperately fleeting is the great magic trick of human existence,” Williams wrote in the forward to the play.

“This play was written for me,” says Marisa Tomei who will play Serafina in the revival when it opens next month at Broadway’s American Airlines theater (previews have already begun). Tomei, an Italian-American romantic who sees the work as a powerful tale of the redemptive power of love, spent part of her summer with her friend and collaborator, make-up artist James Kaliardos, thinking through not only what shade of blush Serafina would have applied, but considering what herbs she would have grown in her garden, how she would have rubbed her elbows with lemons, and softened her feet with pumice stones from the volcanoes of Sicily. (Tomei’s own allegiances are to clean brands such as Intelligent Nutrients and Weleda.) “It’s been so fun to build this character from the inside out,” says Kaliardos. But to really “drop in” to the role, she does her own hair and makeup in the theater to achieve “full Serafina wildness.” In a further commitment to her craft, Tomei—somewhat inadvertently, due to an injury that limited her mobility—spent the summer growing out her underarm hair. “I love it,” she says. “I don’t think I’m ever going back.”


Emily Blunt Takes Over for Anna Wintour and Talks About Becoming Mary Poppins

For someone who is coming at this play knowing just a bit about Cat on a Hot Tin Roof or The Glass Menagerie, how would you describe it? It has some ingredients of a classical tragedy, and yet it is transplanted to the American South.

Strangely, this is to me his most joyous play, where sensuality isn’t a death trap, where falling passionately in love can be a fulfilling, life-giving experience. In some other plays, you’re carted off to the mental hospital if you feel that strongly.

Serafina is an immigrant who came to America with her husband and lives in a cloistered enclave. She is madly, madly in love with her husband, and according to the actual dialogue of the play, has sex with him every single night. That bed is the most beautiful heaven that she could ever imagine. That is her religion; but for most of the play, she has pretty much given up religion. She hasn’t really done anything but work as a seamstress and care for her daughter since her husband’s death. Now her daughter is assimilating and coming into her own sexuality, and it’s triggering a lot of feelings for Serafina. The play is about rebirth.

Tennessee Williams wrote the play when he was head-over-heels in love with a man named Frank Merlo who was from a big Italian family. They met when they were overseas, and lived overseas. The play is dedicated “To Frank for Sicily.”

Can you describe how you’ve prepared for this role?

Really it was a lot of eating a lot of pasta—a great gift to be given, so thank you Tennessee Williams! I didn’t know much about the immigrant experience for people who came over between the late 1800s and the late 1920s—what the conditions were, the kind of poverty they were coming from. I watched a lot of great Italian movies and documentaries, particularly about the immigrant experience during that era.

And then in terms of thinking through the physical preparation, James [Kaliardos] has a background in theater and performance, so we’re always delving into characters together. Just today we were vintage shopping, and James said, “What about this for Serafina?” We have a great costume designer, but since we’re here in Paris, we’ve been looking at peasant blouses and ‘50s skits, pieces that might be out of date, but that would also be appealing for a seamstress who could adapt them.

For this character, in terms of fragrance, it’s all about roses—any kind of rose cream, any kind of scent. She’s an intoxicated person, and I love that. When you get that clean, really organic rose smell, not with that edge, it’s really just so heavenly. Skin is very important for this character, and I feel that way for myself. I use Intelligent Nutrients, and a lot of homemade products. Serafina is coming from a tradition of women who know the plants and how to turn them into natural remedies and beauty products. She has her own garden, she has vegetables with a goat, and she is still connected to the land. I have a friend who would say that when Italian women make the salad, they mix it with their hands. Then they have the olive oil and lemon on their hands, when they touch their faces and their chests, and it sinks into their skin.

There's a major transformation in this play; can you talk about how that played out for you in terms of thinking about her self-presentation?

At the beginning, when she’s waiting for her husband, Serafina is perfectly dressed. She’s well-groomed, well-perfumed, her skin is soft, the bedroom is prepared, the antipasti is prepared; she really setting the table for love. And then after her husband is killed, she spends years in just her slip, not leaving the house very often. There’s an incredible scene where she’s trying to get ready for her daughter’s school graduation and she winds up looking like a sad clown with a very dilapidated hat. She can’t even look at herself—this person who at one point was taking such good care of herself.

She lets it go raw. I love her because she goes raw, and then she comes back to herself with that rawness incorporated. Before there’s almost a baroque quality to the quality of her love, and then she returns to the earth, and comes out anew. I injured my arm earlier this summer and it was kind of hard to move it. All my armpit hair is growing back in, and it’s allowed me to be in full Serafina wildness. I love it. I don’t think I’m ever going back.

Wednesday, August 28, 2019

The Buzziest Movies Coming Out This Fall Are All Directed by Women

Fall is always a great time for movies. After all it’s when all the Oscar contenders begin to roll out. (Many of which may premiere this September at the Toronto International Film Festival.) But all those choices could be dizzying! To narrow things down this season, consider penciling these seven must-see films into your schedule—and the best part about them? They are all directed by women.

With major awards ceremonies having a history of shutting out female filmmakers for consideration—there have only been five women nominated for best director in Oscars history, and Kathryn Bigelow is the only woman to ever win the category—this new crop of female-led films serves as a reminder that some of the most interesting Hollywood stories are, yes, indeed coming from women. From a group of savvy strippers in Hustlers to the trials and tribulations of being a 19th-century teenager in Little Women, there’s something for every moviegoer this fall. Here are the seven films we’re most excited for this fall.



1. Hustlers (September 13)

This star-studded affair, directed by Lorene Scafaria, follows a clever group of strippers—Jennifer Lopez, Constance Wu, Cardi B, Lili Reinhart, Lizzo, and more!—who band together to con their wealthy Wall Street clients. The screenplay is actually based on a real-life New York Magazine article, titled “The Hustlers at Scores,” but this fictional movie version? Consider it the perfect hybrid: Ocean’s 8 meets Showgirls.

2. Harriet (November 1)

Director Kasi Lemmons tells the story of abolitionist Harriet Tubman (played by Cynthia Erivo), who escaped slavery and became an American hero by freeing hundreds of slaves and changing the country’s history forever. It’s largely believed that it will be a major player in the upcoming awards season. Added bonus: Janelle Monáe costars as a mentor who prepares Tubman for her mission.

3. Charlie’s Angels (November 15)

This reimagined version of the 1970s action series—directed by Elizabeth Banks, who also plays a Bosley in the film—stars Kristen Stewart, Naomi Scott, and Ella Balinska as three weapon-wielding angels who work for their mysterious boss, Charlie. Noah Centineo, the internet’s collective boyfriend, also costars. Now it’s also hard to outdo the 2000s trio of Cameron Diaz, Lucy Liu, and Drew Barrymore—but with Stewart proclaiming, “I think women can do anything,” before proceeding to beat up a dude? It’s a strong start.

4. A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood (November 22)

Directed by Marielle Heller, this biographical drama is based on the real-life friendship between journalist Tom Junod and TV star Fred Rogers (known as Mister Rogers), who is played by Tom Hanks. The plot follows Junod, a jaded magazine writer who is assigned to profile Rogers and in the process learns about empathy and kindness; consider it the feel-good movie that 2019 most definitely needs.

5. Queen & Slim (November 27)

Melina Matsoukas (who has done a ton of Beyoncé’s music videos!) directs a drama—written by Lena Waithe, no less—about a young black couple (Daniel Kaluuya and Jodie Turner-Smith) who is on a first date when they are pulled over for a traffic infraction. Things escalate, and Kaluuya’s characer kills the officer in self-defense, which sends the duo on the run. Indya Moore, Chloë Sevigny, and Flea also star.

6. Portrait of a Lady on Fire (December 6)

This French film, starring Noémie Merlant and Adèle Haenel, is directed by Céline Sciamma (Girlhood and Tomboy). The plot is set in Brittany, France, in 1770 and follows the young daughter of a French countess who develops an attraction to a female artist commissioned to paint her wedding portrait. (Sort of like 2018’s lesbian thriller Lizzie with Sevigny but even artsier.) The film already won the Cannes Film Festival’s prestigious Queer Palm prize this year. Could it also be an Oscar contender come 2020?

7. Little Women (December 25)

This film adaptation of the classic Louisa May Alcott novel is directed by Greta Gerwig (Lady Bird) and stars a stellar cast including Emma Watson, Saoirse Ronan, Meryl Streep, Timothée Chalamet, Laura Dern, and more. It follows four teenage girls living in Massachusetts in the 1860s, following the Civil War. Plus, with Chalamet as the 1800s boy next door? It’s a must-see.

Sunday, July 28, 2019

The Week in Washington: “They’re Doing It as We Sit Here”

So, ok, be careful what you wish for. After years of praying and pleading for Special Counsel Robert Mueller to come before Congress and explain to the nation exactly what was so damning, so shocking, in his 448-page report, our dream came true last Wednesday. The special counsel did indeed testify to a number of staggering truths—among them that his investigation could not exonerate the president—but his lackluster delivery, rather than the fiery indictment Democrats were hoping for, resulted in the same quandary: how do you wake America up to the horrors facing us? Do you begin impeachment proceedings, knowing that you will never have the votes in the Republican-lead Senate? Or do you just keep sleep-walking through this nightmare? On Friday, House Speaker Nancy Pelosi stated that the decision on whether to pursue impeachment will be made in a “timely fashion” and denied accusations that she is trying to “run out the clock”; that same day, House Judiciary Committee Chairman Jerry Nadler said in a court filing that “articles of impeachment are under consideration as part of the Committee’s investigation, although no final determination has been made”; According to CNN, at present “of the 235 Democrats in the House, there are at least 101 … who’ve made public comments advocating at least for starting the impeachment inquiry process, while some have gone further.”




Meanwhile, Trump preens and gloats. The day before the Mueller hearing, he appeared before an assemblage of teenage conservatives called Turning Point USA, and rambled: “How about this whole witch hunt that’s going on?  Should I talk about it for a second?... First of all, it’s very bad for our country. No collusion, no obstruction. … I have an Article 2, where I have the right to do whatever I want as President.” (This event was also notable because the president spoke in front of a seal that one of the sponsors had hastily downloaded from the internet, and that was in fact mock emblem: the eagle had been given two heads and was clutching golf clubs and a wad of cash, and the slogan “E Pluribus Unum,” was replaced with “45 Es un Títere,” Spanish for “45 Is a Puppet.”)

Yesterday, the president ramped us his attacks on anyone who would dare question the king, vilifying Maryland Rep. Elijah Cummings, chairman the House Oversight and Reform Committee, which has initiated many of the investigations into the current administration. In an attack inspired by a segment Trump saw on FOX, he maligned and slandered Cummings, who has been an outspoken critic of conditions at the border, and called the congressman’s Baltimore district a “disgusting, rat and rodent infested mess,” accusing him of using “his Oversight Committee to hurt innocent people and divide our Country!”

In other bad news, for first time in nearly 20 years, the federal government has ordered the death penalty to be reinstated, with Attorney General William Barr directing the Bureau of Prisons to begin scheduling executions. Meanwhile, the White House has announced a new spokeswoman at the Treasury Department—it’s Monica Crowley, a former FOX news contributor who has smeared President Obama as an “Islamic community organizer” and enthusiastically promulgated birther conspiracy theories. And, despite Mueller’s warning that Russian election interference is continuing—“They’re doing it as we sit here”—the Republican Senate blocked legislation to help protect and defend election integrity. “The Republican leader has already indicated his intention to bury this bill in the legislative graveyard,” Minority Leader Chuck Schumer said on the Senate floor just prior to McConnell’s block. “That’s a disgrace.”

Lastly, this week the president tweeted numerous times about the case of A$AP Rocky, currently being held on assault charges in Sweden. “Just spoke to @KanyeWest about his friend A$AP Rocky’s incarceration,” Trump wrote. “I will be calling the very talented Prime Minister of Sweden to see what we can do about helping A$AP Rocky. So many people would like to see this quickly resolved!” The commander-in-chief was not moved to tweet one word about the thousands detained at the border, including Francisco Erwin Galicia, an 18-year-old Dallas-born U.S. citizen wrongfully incarcerated by border officials for more than three weeks, even though he showed them a birth certificate proving he is an American. As CBS News reported, “During the 23 days he was in the custody of U.S. Customs and Border Patrol, Galicia was not allowed to shower… The teen said he lost 26 pounds during his time in the immigrant detention center and said officers didn’t provide him with enough food. He was crammed into an overcrowded holding area with 60 other men. They slept on the floor with aluminum-foil blankets—some even had to sleep in the bathroom area, he said.”

Tuesday, June 25, 2019

Read the Funny, Fearless Judith Krantz on Dressing at 70 in Vogue

Judith Krantz, author of best-selling books that combined sex and shopping and paved the way for a whole subset of women’s fiction, died on June 22 at the age of 91. Beginning with Scruples in 1978, her 10 novels contain as many brand names as declarations of passion and romantic trysts. Krantz wrote about dressing for her age at 70 in Vogue, declaring her unwillingness to go gently into that unfashionable night. “I’m more than old enough to dress any way I choose, to adopt a Katharine Hepburn–like uniform and stick to it with dignity for all occasions, or else to find a way to remain stylish without looking like Vivienne Westwood,” she wrote. “But I love fashion too much to confine myself to a standard look.” Read her full piece, titled “Just Seventy,” below.

This article was originally published in the August 2001 issue of Vogue.

According to a longtime rule of fashion, if you were old enough to wear it the first time around, don’t consider wearing it again. I’ve sported bare legs with heels, the cinched-waist mid-calf skirt, the trapeze, the chemise, the chiffon blouse without a bra, the Mary Quant miniskirt, the YSL Smoking, the total Courrèges white-boot look, the bell-bottom trousers with the po’ boy sweater, the power suit, and the tie-dyed Zandra Rhodes evening pajamas. If I had to dress in something I’d never worn before, I’d be limited to a pair of stilettos with fishnet stockings, a Pucci bikini, and a cocktail hat.


That’s what happens to a woman like me, 73 years old and as fascinated by clothes as I ever was in my 20s. I’m more than old enough to dress any way I choose, to adopt a Katharine Hepburn-like uniform and stick to it with dignity for all occasions, or else to find a way to remain stylish without looking like Vivienne Westwood.

But I love fashion too much to confine myself to a standard look. I had my era in which to use clothes for seduction, and I made the most of it. Now, as I have for decades, I can focus on being imaginatively put-together yet appropriate. Yes, appropriate, a word that will never go out of style. As Emerson said, “The sense of being perfectly well-dressed gives a feeling of inward tranquillity which religion is powerless to bestow.” Go, Ralph Waldo!

I learned about grown-up clothes when I lived in Paris for a year after college in 1948-1949 and was introduced to the inexpensive “little dressmaker” who copied the haute couture with great skill. Women then were either still schoolgirls or considered to be adults. There were no hottie, Sex and the City years in which to roam the wilder shores of fashion. By the time the New Look lost its grip. I’d developed the beginnings of a style of my own—never flamboyant or cutting-edge, and always far from funky, yet both sophisticated and fundamentally classic. I’ve definitely followed the fashions of five decades, but I’ve never been a fashionista. My miniskirts never crept up to micro. Today I can see absolutely no reason why age should make me change my personal style in any way.

Before I tell you the current secrets of my closet, that intimate garden every woman cultivates, whether pruned or overgrown, Zen or magpie-full, I have to discuss my figure, since size determines options in clothes. With the plea that you won’t hate me for it, I must admit that I’ve maintained the same weight for 46 years, ever since I started to exercise regularly and watch my diet with severe dedication. Obviously I’m profoundly compulsive, but in a healthy way. I’ve never had an eating disorder, but I am a control freak who sticks to a lean high-protein diet, mostly chicken, fish, fresh fruit, and a bit of veg, plus the occasional fling with a steak. Fortunately I have no sweet tooth, and as the years passed, my stomach became accustomed to smaller portions. I’m hardly a haggard bag of bones since my 104 pounds are confined to a five-foot-two frame, with strong but slender arms, rather skinny legs, and a torso that’s firm and very flexible but marked by the rounded tummy I was born with. (I can feel my abs of iron but have never seen them.) I’m a 6 above the waist, an 8 below, so I buy clothes in 8 and have them altered.

I started doing Pilates long before it was popular, and I owe my body as much to 36 years of Pilates three times a week as to disciplined eating. My trainer, Diane Severino, says that my muscles simply have no idea that Ive grown older since they’ve been subjected to the same extremely rigorous advanced workout for decades.

Maintaining my weight and shape—although a few pounds have given in to gravity and migrated south to my waistline—doesn’t mean that I find it easy to dress well in this all-but-hysterically youth-oriented period of fashion.

There has never been a time in which so many designers are concentrating their efforts on the young and perfect, that midriff-baring, navel-proud, thighs-of-a-goddess tiny minority. Older customers are heartlessly treated as if they have no right to new clothes for the many special occasions in their life. Do designers imagine that most women have the body of Jennifer Lopez? Don’t they understand that women with the money to buy really good clothes and who still have active social lives usually are not young? Oh, don’t get me started!

For daytime there’s no problem. I have a many-hued bouquet of Chanel jackets bought over the years for the promotion of my novels. I’ve given away those that somehow lost their zing—which, mysteriously, can happen overnight; I’ve changed a lot of shoulder pads, but I still have a dozen jackets to choose from, wearing them over J.Crew long-sleeved, round-necked T-shirts, Chanel blouses, French-cuffed white cotton shirts made in Hong Kong by Ascot Chang, or thin cashmere sweaters, all of which I tuck into my pants and belt.

I live in pants by day or night 90 percent of the time because they make me look taller. I have them custom made by Lucy De Caste nou in Beverly Hills. She has my patterns in pleated and flat pants, which we adjust from time to time. I wear white linen, cotton, and silk crepe in the summer, and black in all weights and fabrics the rest of the year. I also have a few pairs of gray-flannel and beige pants. I believe that the luxury of made-to-order pants is the most important element of my wardrobe. Impeccable fit is as essential to me as comfort: I’ve never found a pair of jeans I could endure for long. The skirts of my suits get an airing only for serious lunches, board meetings, and public speaking. I also own several perfect black Chanel silk, wool, and chiffon skirts to pair with jackets for evening, worn with sheer black Wolford panty hose and black shoes, again for a taller look. I always wear skirts for ballroom dancing, a hobby of my husband’s and mine.

I need a lot of evening clothes, and that’s where the difficulty begins. I’ve recently conducted a sweep of all the better-dress departments of Beverly Hills without finding one single acceptable long dress that covered the upper arms, the Bermuda Triangle that few women over a certain age want to reveal, or as Boaz Mazor of Oscar de la Renta says, “Never wave goodbye over 40.” (How long has it been since you’ve seen Sophia Loren’s upper arms in a photo?) What to do if you’re not Sophia and haute couture isn’t an option? I’ve found several paths.

First of all I keep my most successful purchases as long as possible, so that my closet contains many outfits that are more than ten years old and many individual items, like a ravishing black-and-gold lace scarf from Geoffrey Beene and an Anne Klein suede blouson zip-up jacket, both of which I’ve had for 30 years, and which go out to dinner smashingly together over a black sweater and pants, Suits aside, I buy only separates—dresses are too limited—and I make time every season to experiment with putting things together in new ways. When I find an unexpected combination I write it down so it won’t be forgotten. I never buy prints, because they don’t adapt to mix- and-never-match, and they’re too memorable.

Secondly, I go to my favorite designers’ trunk shows when they come to L.A., to ferret out those few items designed for someone over 35. (I always crumple fabric in my fist for five minutes to see how badly it wrinkles, and I order nothing I haven’t studied while looking in a full-length mirror.) Trunk shows allow me to order clothes in color since I try to wear black as rarely as possible. Women of my age tend to wear black, and I disappear at a party unless I’m wearing color—which, in any case, is more flattering. Finally, I’m getting to know the vintage stores where I can pick up the essential odd jackets that can turn pants and skirts into new outfits.

To be specific, in March, to the gala opening of the Alvin Ailey company at the Music Center, the invitation called for “festive cocktail wear.” I unearthed a Chanel favorite that’s four years old: a gold lamé tunic with slim matching pants, under a lightweight brown-and-beige tweed coat trimmed with collar and cuffs of the same lamé. It’s the oddball mixture of fabrics that makes it always look up-to-date, and I can usually wear it at least twice a year.

Also in March, an invitation to the benefit preview of Christie’s auction of Tony Duquette’s furnishings demanded “Evening Dress in the Duquette Manner.” Three years ago I couldn’t resist buying Oscar de la Renta’s very elaborate ruffled jacket in celadon-and-white-striped taffeta embroidered with delicate pink flowers with green stems... almost a costume. (A wise saleslady once told me that if you buy something you don’t need, the invitation will come.) When I fell for it, I also ordered two solid taffeta celadon skirts, long and short, as well as thin cashmere sweaters in celadon and pale pink.

For the Duquette evening I wore the long skirt, the matching sweater, and the jacket. I piled on three vintage costume necklaces of green and red stones, from a collection accumulated over many years. Then I added big vintage green-and-red Chanel earrings and a massive matching brooch pinned on one sleeve.

That, I decided, took care of the “Duquette Manner” and proved my theory that if you buy things you love, take care of them, and hang on to them even though you don’t know why, a day will come when they prove brilliantly useful. Also, small jewelry makes small women smaller. Big jewelry for all women!

Oscar’s striped jacket reverses to plain celadon, and with the short skirt, the pink sweater, and my good pearls it makes a great party suit. (Note: Pearls can sometimes make older women look older.) I expect to own this outfit forever. Obviously I’m not of the “give away everything you haven’t worn in the last few years” school—that attitude is for the very trendy or ultrarich. Most women would be wiser to keep their greatest buys in the back of their closets for that distant future in which I now find myself living. I still miss a Jean Muir tweed cape I gave away 23 years ago. As for my four superb Norells from the sixties, I could wear them today—if only I still had them.

Soon after the Duquette evening, I went to a dinner party in my most beloved possession, a short black velvet Chanel jacket embroidered by Lesage with bunches of violets. Fifteen years ago it came with long, wide black satin pants, and I paid more for it than any other piece in my closet. I’ve had the satin trim rebound in grosgrain, and it never looks less than splendid. I wore the jacket open over a plain black silk, low-cut chemise tucked into new black velvet pants, a multistranded Miriam Haskell necklace in two tones of green, and large amethyst briolette drop earrings. As with most of my clothes, my friends have seen that jacket, worn one way or another, at least once a year for fifteen years, but I doubt they remember. And if they do, so what?

Three of my friends dress exclusively in Armani. They’re all larger and more impressive than I am and always beautifully turned out, but rather than go the safe Armani way, I search for a touch of fantasy in my clothes. I think of getting dressed as a form of play, like sketching flowers with colored pencils.

I’m serious about buying the very best accessories. They know no age limitations, and they reward me every day. Hermès scarves tend to follow me out of the store. During the day I’m rarely without their transforming colors around my neck, even in a bathrobe. The minute one looks too familiar I send it to a good home. As for Hermès bags, I buy no others. Once you’ve owned one, there’s no turning back. I take them to be refurbished every year so they always look well loved, no matter their age. My husband has indulged my Kelly passion with a black crocodile medium-size bag and two minis, in ruby-red and dark-green crocodile. Age has its prerogatives!

What did I buy this past spring? (After all, I don’t wear only old clothes.) Two long evening dresses from Oscar, one with a pink lace top and an Edwardian black satin skirt, the other in a raspberry silk crepe, with a long-sleeved, boat-necked overblouse and a mermaid skirt slit high on the side, both ordered with stoles to guard against air-conditioning. I couldn’t resist Oscar’s light white wool coat trimmed with eyelet for daytime—it’s been forever since I’ve bought a new spring coat. I remember when it was a beloved yearly ritual. The coat came with a matching skirt and top, and I added an identical top in navy—many different looks to be created there.

At Chanel, in the cruise collection, I found a navy-and-white-striped Norfolk jacket that looked really new, as well as a simple but ravishing long pink jacket with a fly front. (After a certain age, a woman’s wardrobe needs frequent transfusions of pink.) From the spring collection I bought only a tucked white chiffon blouse with a floppy black bow, very “Coco.” I hope M. Lagerfeld starts to remember his loyal customers in the fall collection. At his prices, he’d better!

From Marni, in homage to Sarah Jessica Parker, I bought a whimsical navy cashmere sweater with two huge red-and-white- striped flowers at the neckline. Carrie would wear it with shorts; I’ll pull it over white silk trousers. And finally I found a Kate Spade short raincoat in geranium, an ideal casual cover-up. When I shop I always wear something tried and true. Eileen Ford once told me that when she judged foreign model competitions she brought photos of her best girls for comparison because you lose your eye so quickly; and the same thing goes for clothes.

As for shoes, I bought only Prada and Miu Miu flats. There may be some women of my age who want to flaunt bed-of-nails-hooker stilettos, but I”m not one of them. The height of heels today is as ridiculous as Marie Antoinette’s wigs, a form of tulip-mania although far more painful and potentially harmful. Foot fetishism, anyone? And what of the 80 percent of this spring’s shoes that are open in the back and front and must be worn without stockings? I did that in the last years of World War II and hated the feeling. Few bare legs are impeccably pretty, and even fewer toes. To me, a woman dressed for evening with bare legs simply looks unfinished. How can the shoe industry not offer more choice? Thank Heaven for Kate Spade and her fleet of flat Mary Janes; thank Heaven for spotless white Keds.

On many a summer day I may indeed be that famous little old lady in tennis shoes, but in immaculate white trousers, a fresh white shirt, a red cardigan over my shoulders, and a sulfur-yellow Hermès bag, I won’t feel like one. And my feet won’t hurt.

Thursday, May 30, 2019

There's a Normal People TV Show, and It's Already Filming



We're getting a Normal People TV show, an adaptation of Sally Rooney's book that you and everyone you know and the models and Taylor Swift is reading or has read. It's already filming, and in the US, it will air on Hulu, announced today. The streaming site will air the upcoming BBC Three adaptation in twelve half-hour episodes, following protagonists Marianne and Connell as they go from high school to college while pingpong-ing back and forth like a millennial Irish Ross and Rachel. If that sounds flippant, I'm only being an ironic millennial myself—Rooney's second novel is cleverly, addictively written and I hope the show is as good as, for example, the adaptation of Elena Ferrante's Neopolitan novels was.

Here's what we know: Sally Rooney is adapting the series with writers Alice Birch and Mark O’Rowe. The series stars Daisy Edgar-Jones (War of the Worlds, Cold Feet) as Marianne, and Paul Mescal as Connell. Lenny Abrahamson (of Room) and Hettie McDonald are directing the series. It premieres in 2020.

Edgar-Jones and Mescal seem like hip, appropriately cynical yet beautiful twenty-somethings from a quick perusal of their Instagram feeds, so things bode well for the series.

A casting call was apparently put out to real-life Trinity College students in Dublin to appear in the show, to heighten the realism (hopefully there will also be real Tesco sandwiches and bottlers of Magners). Now if the Normal People TV show can get all its Marxist theory correctly rendered, that will be a bonus.